South Coast Garage: 2/1/08

Friday, February 29, 2008

Picture of the Day

Life is following the road in front of you, learn from the bumps in your rear view mirror.

Quote of the Day

"Don't judge each day by the harvest you reap but by the seeds that you plant."

Thursday, February 28, 2008

Quote of the Day

Medicine, to produce health, has to examine disease.

(Yep, doctor appointment today for and abscess. Ouch.)

Wednesday, February 27, 2008

Quote of the Day

"Rather fail with honor than succeed by fraud."

Tuesday, February 26, 2008

Quote of the Day

All charming people have something to conceal, usually their total dependence on the appreciation of others.

Monday, February 25, 2008

Quote of the Day

"After the verb 'to Love,' 'to Help' is the most beautiful verb in the world."

Sunday, February 24, 2008

Quote of the Day

"What we have done for ourselves alone dies with us; what we have done for others and the world remains and is immortal."

Saturday, February 23, 2008

"What Happened to All the Nice Guys?"

Here is one for the ladies that came across my email:

What happened to all the nice guys? (Did you catch the symbolism in the photo?) And yes I am bitter.

The answer is simple: you did.

See, if you think back, really hard, you might vaguely remember a Platonic guy pal who always seemed to want to spend time with you. He'd tag along with you when you went shopping, stop by your place for a movie when you were lonely but didn't feel like going out, or even sit there and hold you while you sobbed and told him about how horribly the (other) guy that you were screwing treated you.

At the time, you probably joked with your girlfriends about how he was a little puppy dog, always following you around, trying to do things to get you to pay attention to him. They probably teased you because they thought he had a crush on you. Given that his behavior was, admittedly, a little pathetic, you vehemently denied having any romantic feelings for him, and buttressed your position by claiming that you were "just friends." Besides, he totally wasn't your type. I mean, he was a little too short, or too bald, or too fat, or too poor, or didn't know how to dress himself, or basically be or do any of the things that your tall, good-looking, fit, rich, stylish boyfriend at the time pulled off with such ease.

Eventually, your Platonic buddy drifted away, as your relationship with the boyfriend got more serious and spending time with this other guy was, admittedly, a little weird, if you weren't dating him. More time passed, and the boyfriend eventually cheated on you, or became boring, or you realized that the things that attracted you to him weren't the kinds of things that make for a good, long-term relationship. So, now, you're single again, and after having tried the bar scene for several months having only encountered players and douche bags, you wonder, "What happened to all the nice guys?"

Well, once again, you did.

You ignored the nice guy. You used him for emotional intimacy without reciprocating, in kind, with physical intimacy. You laughed at his consideration and resented his devotion. You valued the aloof boyfriend more than the attentive "just-a-" friend. Eventually, he took the hint and moved on with his life. He probably came to realize, one day, that women aren't really attracted to guys who hold doors open; or make dinners just because; or buy you a Christmas gift that you mentioned, in passing, that you really wanted five months ago; or listen when you're upset; or hold you when you cry. He came to realize that, if he wanted a woman like you, he'd have to act more like the boyfriend that you had. He probably cleaned up his look, started making some money, and generally acted like more of an butthole than he ever wanted to be.

Fact is, now, he's probably getting laid, and in a way, your ultimate rejection of him is to thank for that. And I'm sorry that it took the complete absence of "nice guys" in your life for you to realize that you missed them and wanted them. Most women will only have a handful of nice guys stumble into their lives, if that.

So, if you're looking for a nice guy, here's what you do:

1.) Build a time machine.
2.) Go back a few years and pull your head out of your butt.
3.) Take a look at what's right in front of you and grab a hold of it.

I suppose the other possibility is that you STILL don't really want a nice guy, but you feel the social pressure to at least appear to have matured beyond your infantile taste in men. In which case, you might be in luck, because the nice guy you claim to want has, in reality, shed his nice guy mantle and is out there looking to unleash his cynicism and resentment onto someone just like you.

If you were five years younger.

So, please: either stop misrepresenting what you want, or own up to the fact that you've screwed yourself over. You're getting older, after all. It's time to excise the B.S. and deal with reality. You didn't want a nice guy then, did you?

Sincerely,

A Recovering Nice Guy

Quote of the Day

Age does not diminish the extreme disappointment of having a scoop of ice cream fall from the cone.

Thursday, February 14, 2008

You decide

Well?
Heck, I can't even grow a beard.

Picture of the Day

Quote of the Day

"Love has nothing to do with what you are expecting to get, it's what you are expected to give -- which is everything."

Wednesday, February 13, 2008

Picture of the Day

Quote of the Day

It was all love on my side, and all good comradeship and friendship on hers. When we parted she was a free woman, but I could never again be a free man.